Adoption is a beautiful journey filled with love, challenges, and growth—for both parents and children. Along the way, I’ve learned a lot about myself, my family, and what it takes to nurture strong, resilient kids. Here are some of the most valuable lessons I’ve gathered as an adoptive mama of my two step nieces.
1. Be the healthiest version of yourself.
My girls need me to be as healthy as possible—physically, mentally, and emotionally. This means staying active, eating a balanced diet, and getting plenty of sleep. It also means going to therapy, managing my own emotions, and staying regulated as much as possible. When I take care of myself, I’m better equipped to care for them.
2. The village is essential.
We thrive on the support of all the amazing adults in our lives. Not only do these positive role models enrich my daughters’ lives, but they’re also there for me when I need help. Whether it’s a ride to ballet class, a quick trip to the makeup store (which I’m no expert in), or navigating tricky life lessons about boys, my girls benefit from having loving, supportive adults around them. And let’s be real—Mom and Dad need breaks too!
3. Apologize to your children.
It’s okay to make mistakes—parents are human too. When I apologize to my girls, it helps repair our relationship and shows them that being vulnerable is okay. It teaches them that making mistakes is part of life and that taking responsibility strengthens trust.
4. Progress is not linear.
Parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs. Some days we climb 10 steps up the mountain, while other days, we slide back or simply stay in place. Progress doesn’t always look the way we expect, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean we aren’t growing—it just means we’re navigating different challenges at different times.
These lessons continue to shape my journey as an adoptive mama, and I’m grateful for all they’ve taught me about patience, love, and resilience.
About the author:
Amber Sullivan served as an Early Intervention Service Coordinator at Bright Beginnings from 2010-2024. In 2024 she moved into her current role as Positive Parenting Coordinator for the Triple P program. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Child and Family Studies from Ashland University. Amber brings experience in working with children with special needs and helping parents to adapt to the needs of their children. Amber also has a special interest in children with trauma and ADHD. Amber's two step nieces came into her and her husband's home at ages 5 and 13 in 2022. Amber and her husband adopted the girls in March 2024 and they are now 16 and 8. Amber is a strong advocate for her girls and collaborates with a variety of resources and agencies in the community both personally and professionally. She is passionate about helping parents wherever they are in their journey to be their best selves.